6 ways building someone up helps you

We all have insecurities – those little nagging self-deprecating thoughts that just don’t seem to go away. Sometimes these thoughts become so overwhelming that they start to affect our daily lives. When that happens, people usually tend to find someone or something that tells them that it’s not so bad. When someone opens up to you about their insecurities or unfavourable circumstances, take it upon yourself to build them up. Do your best to make them feel loved and worthy because sometimes we all need a little reassurance to get back on our feet.

Why should you invest in building someone else up? Well for starters, good karma. Secondly, the time and energy that you spend on making others feel good about themselves also help you. So if not for someone else, do it for you.

Here’s how helping someone get a little positive perspective can be such a rewarding experience.

Gives purpose to your pain

More often than not when we’re going through tough times we can’t help but think why is this happening to me? Sometimes it is hard to come to terms with your hardships and accept them as a part of your life. The thing is that just like evolution the more you endure the stronger and wiser you become.

It equips you to put things in perspective for other people who are in similar situations. Helping someone by giving them insider’s view makes you feel like all that unnecessary pain and suffering finally has a purpose – to help a particular person in need.

Helps you become more grateful

When someone opens up to you about their insecurities and personal struggles it helps you realize that you’re not the only one who’s struggling – a fact that we tend to forget very often. At some level, we are all going through the same stuff in one form or the other. You may even realize that some people have it way worse than you do. This is of course not to undermine your own issues but it certainly helps you become more grateful.  It opens your mind up to your blessings and ultimately helps you become more appreciative of what you have.

Makes you more empathetic

Empathy is one of the beautiful parts of being human. People who are empathetic have richer experiences in life as they feel more and understand more about the people around them. When you lend an ear to someone who needs to vent, appreciate them for who they are, and try to direct their attention towards their good qualities you have to put yourself in their shoes first. It allows you to see life from another perspective and broadens your worldview.  

Recipe for stronger relationships

Helping someone develop a positive sense of self unravels both of your strengths and weaknesses.  Sometimes to help someone gain a little perspective you have to expose your own vulnerabilities. It helps them accept their own shortcomings by making them realize that none of us are perfect and that we are all human.

According to the “onion model” of social penetration theory, self-disclosure leads to the formation of stronger relationships. If personality is an onion then fears and insecurities are the second last layer of the onion. When you delve into deeper conversations peeling of the superficial layers you create a recipe for the most substantial and long-lasting relationships.

Calls for introspection

When you hear someone talk about their insecurities it automatically makes you think about your strengths, weaknesses, and vulnerabilities. It makes you probe into your life’s journey and how you cope with your problems.

While you’re the one trying to build the other person up you may learn a lot about yourself. While you’re helping them cope with their unfavorable circumstances they might teach you a thing or two about life as well. It’s a learning process.

Do good, feel good

When all is said and done and you have invested some time and energy to make someone feel worthy, you’re taken over with this amazing sense of satisfaction. The feeling of doing good inevitably makes you feel good about yourself, you exude positive vibes and go to bed a happier and richer person.

When was the last time you built someone up? How does it help you? Share in the comments below.



  1. So right, especially understanding someone else’s feelings and being just slightly more mindful helps like anything!

    • The Hamster Ball

      Indeed 🙂 Cheers.

    • The Hamster Ball

      Mindfulness is the key 🙂

  2. Very well penned. You’re right that helping others helps us realize our own strengths.

    • The Hamster Ball

      Thanks for reading <3

    • The Hamster Ball

      Thanks for reading 🙂

  3. This is such a great post! There is beauty in our struggle- I love what you said about giving purpose to your pain! This is absolutely beautiful- will be sharing!

    • The Hamster Ball

      Aw cheers mate <3

  4. This is exactly the reason why we build our community empoweringanduplifting.com to help somebody’s up. We all have struggles and in my case I use my struggles to help somebody, I use my pain and heart achesto touch somebody’s life.

    • The Hamster Ball

      Way to go <3

  5. I am always building someone up. Actually yesterday was my last time!

    • The Hamster Ball

      how do you feel it helps you? 🙂

  6. Yes! Building up others is a win-win situation for all parties involved. We all benefit and become better people. Great post. (Also, I love your little hamster logo. Makes me smile every time I see it.)

    • The Hamster Ball

      Aw thank you so much Keli 🙂 Come back soon!

  7. Great post!! I definitely believe that it helps to build stronger relationships; I enjoy making others feel better about themselves😊

  8. These inclinations towards self doubt; lead you downhill. You should always help those in need and direct them in the right direction.
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    • The Hamster Ball

      Indeed. Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  9. Not sure if this represents ‘building someone up’ but I have recently spent time validating the feelings of a friend who felt she wasn’t being treated with kindness.

  10. I agree. We help ourselves when we help others. I have always loved volunteering. I also start my blog to inspire and encourage people who are going through a hard time, but in a way it is some form of therapy for myself.

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